I can not, and will not, put myself in that persons shoes.
Im not going to apologize for my gender its not my place.
Im not going to try and defend one persons actions, because theyre indefensible.
I can only do the following: be the best person I can be, and try to protect and empower the people around me to the best of my ability. Anything else is disingenuous.
Instead of saying Im not that guy, Id rather say Dont be that guy, in a loud, clear voice.